Genesis 3: 2 – 3, The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ” (NIV)
Given Eve’s response to Satan, we see a breakdown in communication between Adam and Eve in what God had commanded. God was clear that the act of eating from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil would result in death; touching was not mentioned as an inappropriate choice. The fact that Eve claimed touching was the sin indicates that she misunderstood Adam’s directive from the Lord or that Adam failed to clearly communicate God’s Word to her. (Excerpt from Chapter 1 of Oneness: A Call to Honor God in the Marriage Relationship)
The fact that we live in a sinful world is centered around a breakdown in communication between Adam and Eve. Scripture sheds no light on where the breakdown occurred. Whether it was Adam who didn’t clearly communicate to Eve what God had spoken or whether it was Eve who failed to obey God instructions through Adam. What we do know is this, both Adam and Eve participated in sinning by eating the fruit, Eve did not consult Adam for protection from temptation, and Adam did not exercise his headship in the marriage.
Here are some key points to communication:
- It must be clear and concise.
- It must be open and transparent. We need information flowing with nothing hidden. Adam and Eve covered themselves with fig leaves which indicated that the knew they were naked. This is the beginning of hiding self and information from one another. The word “naked” implies being open and transparent; with nothing to hide.
- It involves time. Couples must practice communicating to understand how the other spouse uses words and what they are communicating. Every couple will develop their own form on communicating by choosing key words and body language to communicate with the other. This only occurs when one spends time together to allow this skill to prosper and promote bonding.
- It has intent. You must communicate appropriately, kindly, and in the best interest of others. What one must do during communication is analyze your motive during the transaction. Is it for the betterment of the relationship?
Communication plays a key role in relationships and was designed by God. This is evident in Genesis when God looked for Adam in the garden. Therefore, communication is key to the marriage relationship.