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Marriage is About God, Not Us

crossWe need to analyze what the marriage covenant is truly about. It’s not about what we get from marriage, it’s about what we can do for God through our marriage.

Ephesians 5: 31- 32 states, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church.” Nowhere in Scripture does it ever state that the marriage is for our glory or our own selfish desires. It’s for God’s glory. The marriage relationship has a higher purpose and that is to reflect the true relationship with Jesus Christ and the church. God wants to glorify, His Son, Jesus.

God’s view about divorce is seen in Malachi 2: 16, “‘I hate divorce,’ say the Lord God of Israel, ‘and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,’ says the Lord Almighty.”

First, God makes it clear through the use of His name who is speaking and how He feels about divorce. But, why does God hate divorce? We are ripping apart the marriage relationship which is central to God’s work in representing the relationship between Christ and the church. We do considerable damage to what God is trying to accomplish in everyone’s life on many levels when divorce is pursued. The family unit was designed as the main unit for worshipping the Lord. It is the place where spiritual training is to occur so that one can truly serve the Lord on the corporate level with others. Ephesians 5: 26 instructs the husband to lead his wife in the Word so that she can be holy just as Jesus Christ has made the church holy. Malachi 2: 15 states that another purpose of the marriage is to raise “godly offspring”. Divorce rips apart the family unit which is designed for disciplining in Christ.

When couples state that they are having marriage issues, its because they want to make it about them. It’s not about them, it’s about God. There is not one issue in a marriage relationship that can’t be resolved. The main issue at hand is a spiritual issue. What we are really saying is that we want our way and not God’s! Marriage issues are about serving self; whereas, God has called us to a life of faithfulness, no matter what our current situations or circumstances entail, because:


God has displayed His faithfulness to Israel and us throughout all of history. God calls us to demonstrate and reflect a picture of this faithfulness through the marriage relationship. When we enter into marriage, we are really entering into a relationship with God where we take a vow to live according to His way of living, not ours. We are stating that we are going to remain faithful to Him acknowledging that we are going to commit the picture of Christ and the church as found in Ephesians 5. We are committing to the picture of Christ and the church.

Marriage was never intended to serve us, but to serve the Lord God. As you deal with so called marriage issues, remember that the real issue is a spiritual one of submitting to God’s design or serving self.

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